Example – Max Max finds that getting work completed and out of the way helps him more relaxed and in control. Currently, Max is going through major personal
One way to think of mood is as a spiral of your thoughts/emotions > your behaviour > results/other people’s reactions > your thoughts/emotions > and so on… The
Secondary gains are the “benefits” people get from NOT overcoming a problem. For many people who are stuck, secondary gains are an important mechanism in why they stay
Something I’ve learned as a therapist is that people keep a heck of a lot of their best qualities hidden inside rather than expressing those qualities so other
Relationships Let’s say: You see your partner as controlling. Let’s also say: this has large elements of truth. There are 2 psychological barriers to getting unstuck here 1.
This is a very easy and quick exercise. What’s awesome about it is that it’s experiential. It requires you to physically experience something rather than attempting to learn
Here are 3 cycles I frequently see in people who are having relationships problems. These particularly commonly occur when one or both partners has low self esteem. Person
If you’re socially anxious, remember when you’re having a conversation with someone that your conversation partner has 50% of the responsibility for the conversation going well. Its common
Lots of people don’t do things they’d like to do for fear of rejection and the corresponding disappointment. If this is you, then you can break this pattern
