Example Ari is 22. Sometime in his growing up, he developed the idea that he is “unlikeable”. Here are 3 coping strategies Ari might use for coping with
Happy relationships generally have a ratio of at least 5:1 positive to negative interactions. Of course its more complicated than this but the 5:1 ratio is a simple
Let’s think about your inner caveperson. The evolutionary purpose of negative emotions (i.e. why we have them – just like we have evolved opposable thumbs for a purpose)
Implicit assumptions that are either just plain wrong or over-generalized are at the root of a lot of suffering and stuckness. Here’s a common implicit assumption problem Person
Do you have stressful interpersonal situations that recur and leave you feeling overwhelmed or attacked? You might need to do some “top of the cliff” problem solving. Here’s
This post covers ONE of the most common reasons for relationship communication failure, and includes HOW TO advice at the bottom. Flooding Psychology – Psychological flooding is one
When a person starts taking committed action in their valued life directions (e.g. eating healthfully), “stuff” has a tendency to pop up that derails them from keeping moving
“If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you always got.” psychology PhD – Steven Hayes Examples: If you continue to believe a particular
Secondary gains are the “benefits” people get from NOT overcoming a problem. For many people who are stuck, secondary gains are an important mechanism in why they stay
