One way to think of mood is as a spiral of your thoughts/emotions > your behaviour > results/other people’s reactions > your thoughts/emotions > and so on… The
Secondary gains are the “benefits” people get from NOT overcoming a problem. For many people who are stuck, secondary gains are an important mechanism in why they stay
There are at least 4 different types of avoiding feelings. 1. avoiding experiencing feelings 2. avoiding expressing feelings 3. avoiding provoking feelings in other people (e.g. avoiding conflict)
When people are feeling negative emotions (e.g. due to depression, anxiety, or relationship problems), their thinking becomes more negative, narrow, and rigid. People tend to get very “all
Reassurance seeking is a common pattern in clients with high worry (e.g. Generalized Anxiety Disorder, Health Anxiety, Attachment/Relationship anxiety) The “Reassurance Seeking / Anxiety Trap” is that reassurance
A hallmark of psychological health is the ability to think flexibly. When people get depressed, are highly anxious, or are feeling high levels of negative emotions for other
Here are 3 cycles I frequently see in people who are having relationships problems. These particularly commonly occur when one or both partners has low self esteem. Person
How you talk about the things you feel negative emotions about can have a surprisingly large impact on how you feel and on your thought processes. When I
