Author: Alice Boyes, PhD.

In a previous post, I wrote about “If you aren’t willing to have anxiety, you will have it”. What this saying means is that the things people do

Example – Max Max finds that getting work completed and out of the way helps him more relaxed and in control. Currently, Max is going through major personal

Sometimes clients with anxiety tell me that they don’t avoid things due to their anxiety, they just endure situations through gritted teeth. That’s a tough way to roll,

One way to think of mood is as a spiral of your thoughts/emotions > your behaviour > results/other people’s reactions > your thoughts/emotions > and so on… The

Tips for letting go of social comparison. 1. Opportunity Cost No one likes to miss out on good stuff that other people have. But keep in mind that

Secondary gains are the “benefits” people get from NOT overcoming a problem. For many people who are stuck, secondary gains are an important mechanism in why they stay

One of the most common things that happens when people make a change in their behaviour is that they feel more restless than usual. Change = different and

Something I’ve learned as a therapist is that people keep a heck of a lot of their best qualities hidden inside rather than expressing those qualities so other

There are at least 4 different types of avoiding feelings. 1. avoiding experiencing feelings 2. avoiding expressing feelings 3. avoiding provoking feelings in other people (e.g. avoiding conflict)

When people are feeling negative emotions (e.g. due to depression, anxiety, or relationship problems), their thinking becomes more negative, narrow, and rigid. People tend to get very “all